Truman Show Syndrome

Most of the guys in my life are the strong sort. They are quite interesting, rather outgoing and generally real characters. Most of the guys I know also seem to suffer from the whole Truman Show Syndrome. You know, they think the entire world revolves around them? That the only really important thing in life is what they are up to? They thing that they are the most interesting people on the planet? Yeah, ego-centric is another word for it. The thing is.. with a lot of these guys.. their shows are pretty damn interesting. I mean I could watch the HKN show all day long. My brother also has a really good one. So does JB and even LF has a pretty decent thing going on. One thing that’s nice about all of these boys is the fact that I do get time or featured in the shows. I get the odd commercial or a walk on role. When I need to be featured.. I am. And it works out just fine… I like the show and I’m happy with my roles.

There are a few others though.. their shows suck balls aren’t my favourite. It’s so completely all about them.. that even if I try to make a slight appearance.. it becomes all about them again. These are the real Truman Show Syndrome boys. The kind who only ask questions so that you’ll ask them the same question back. The kind of boys who tune out during your answers or never really do listen to anything you say. These are the boys who think they have the best show going on.. but really.. it’s old hat. It’s been done before and it just gets simply tiring to be in the audience.

I know this isn’t a totally male thing as I have other female friends who think the world revolves around them but seriously.. it just gets a bit much at times. With the whole TSS thing I know that at times I get pretty into my own show too and if other people’s shows are boring.. I’ll tune out as well. But at the same time… I like to think that if I’m needed, I listen. I like to think that not everything I do is merely about me and that I can focus on people other than myself.

This then goes back into the whole notion of give and take in friendships/relationships. I believe that if they are purely one sided then they really aren’t a real friendship/relationship. Both people need to be heard.. both need venting grounds and both need to feel important. Give and take is really important.

Maybe Truman Show Syndrome is only prevalent in my relationships with guys but then that opens up the whole new can of worms about guys and girls being able to really be friends and that isn’t what this is about just now. I know that guys and girls can be because I have mentioned guys who aren’t totally TSS.

The other thing is that these TSS guys can be really interesting to a point but then it’s important to have other friends who actually do listen and validate and do all that fun friend stuff. I just get tired of watching certain shows.. and no one really wants to be around people who are all about them. It gets really tiring really quickly.

Every friendship needs some give and take and as Toby Keith sings: “I wanna talk about me!” And yes.. that was a reference to country music!
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